The first time you sleep with someone can always be tricky. Especially if its not a hookup with someone you met at a bar or club on a Friday night, very specific I know. It’s even more tricky with someone you may have feelings for. So, here are a few tips on things to do, or not to do on the first night.
Do, express your feelings. We are often tempted to sideline our feelings that first time to make our partner, or partners feel more comfortable. However, this doesn’t help anyone, you end up giving your partner the wrong idea on what you find stimulating, while also depriving yourself of a great experience. It doesn’t have to be commands, or mean, try being more vocal on things you enjoy that way you’re sending subtle codes to them on what you enjoy.
Do not eat spicy foods. The very last thing you need is to have heartburn, bathroom disaster or gasses on the first night. Also, try to avoid highly acidic food, yes, the vagina is acidic but you don’t want it anymore so than it needs to be.
Do set the scene. Now, you don’t have to have the house with candles or roses, but something humans are really good at is picking up on bodily cues. Fun fact, about 70% of communication is done through body motions. So, try and be comfortable but also be receptive.
Do not Skip over consent. Consent my friends is very sexy, and you should not be having sex with anyone who doesn’t think so. Ask before you go in for that first kiss to make sure they are receptive to the motions you’ve been sending. Ask again when you want to go to the next level, and so on. Remember nothing beats consensual sex.
Hope these tips help you through the first night.